How Is Talking To A Therapist Different From Talking With A Friend/Family?
Objectivity
Friends and family can be amazing. But it's fair to say that our friends and family can also be very biased, have their own agendas, or provide advice. Therapists on the other hand are professionally trained in being objective and non-judgmental. Therapists are trained to listen in a way that doesn't include bias or a preconception. This allows you to explore your thoughts and feelings in a fluid way.
Confidentiality
When speaking to friends and family, your privacy isn't guaranteed. For the most part we share with who we trust. This can happen unintentionally or intentionally, what you disclose can become gossip or even a discussion at their dinner tables. When talking with a therapist you don't have to wonder if your privacy is being kept, because therapists are required to follow ethics that prioritize a clients confidentiality.
Confidentiality means that a therapist will not share the contents of your session, personal information, or any medical records, except in limited circumstances (e.g., danger to self or others).
Boundaries
Boundaries! Yes, I'm yelling boundaries with palms wide open. Because they are so vital in every relationship. When speaking to a therapist the boundaries that should be in place is that a therapist is not your friend (sorry my sweet humans) and not your family. This is important to recognize so that you are able to explore difficult topics and emotions without concern of also having to pour into the therapist or worry about hurting the therapist feelings. Though a therapist should still be respected (since they are human as well) you don't have to feel responsible for their emotions or fear of damaging the relationship when exploring yourself.
Professional Training
Your friend who took an intro to psychology course, or brother who is in school to be a therapist are not your therapist. Again, bias and boundaries are vital for the therapeutic process. We can appreciate and acknowledge the wonderful insights that friends and family have but also acknowledge that a trained professional has years of education and experience to assist in mental health.
Therapists are typically required to receive specialized education, years of experience, continued education, clinical supervision, and passing a licensure exam. Being trained extensively gives therapists the ability to assist clients with a range of mental health issues from anxiety, depression, trauma, to relational issues, etc. Therapists are also able to provide assessments, diagnosis, and give referrals to other health care professionals when appropriate or needed.
Focus on Growth
Family and friends can give great insight, love, and support. But they do not have the same level of training or expertise as a therapist. Therapy includes evidence based treatments that allows therapists to create treatment plans and goals with the client. With a goal and plan in mind you are able to improve your overall wellbeing and mental health.
Family and friends are an amazing support system. Having a strong support system is a key advantage to the healing process. But the main difference between talking to a therapist and family/friends is the professional training and overall relational dynamics. This is an important aspect when focusing on mental health wellness.
